ambivalence in sibling relationships
The more I learn about sibling relationships, the more impressed I am with what *ambivalent* relationships they are--even when there is no disability. It seems that when disabilities are present, the ambivalence only gets stronger--the highs are higher (e.g. "Donny has brought me unending joy and laughter, and probably increased my sensitivity hundred-fold." Would many of us make such a comment about a sibling who wasn't disabled? ) and the lows are lower. (e.g. "On the other hand, sometimes I can't help but feel frustrated and cheated."). The challenge, I suppose, is to celebrate the insights and sensitivity one gains as a result of the relationship, learn (sometimes painful) lessons from the frustrations and then--somehow--move on.Don
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Joan Fleitas, Ed.D., R.N.
Associate Professor of Nursing, Lehman College, CUNY
Bronx, New York 10468

 Last updated: November 30, 2006