something? Just when you think you've got it all figured out, your children
grow to a new stage in their development, or they get sick, or injured,
or are confronted with a million other circumstances that call for a "regrouping"
of parenting skills.
is one of the events in a child's life that puts tough demands on parenting.
When you learn that Jeffrey must stay in the hospital, you may wonder what
your role should be. It's a role that's foreign to many parents, and one
that requires attention and practice. It's also a role crucial in its effect
on Jeffrey's ability to cope. In a nutshell, you are his parents, and that's
what's expected of you in the hospital, just as you expect it of yourself
at home. To be his parents. It's important to remember that you are the
expert in parenting Jeffrey, more expert in that role than the nurses,
or physicians, or child life therapists, or any other of the health professionals
that you meet.
you can help them all to learn about Jeffrey; about what makes him tick,
how he comforts himself, and what he understands about what's happening.
You serve a crucial function in this parenting role. You are his guide,
and the best of all comforters. The nurses consider part of their role
to be helping you in this parenting challenge, so don't hesitate to ask
for their assistance.
you bring Amy to the hospital, you may have a myriad of emotional responses.
Most parents do. Fear, anger, guilt and sadness are all normal, albeit
difficult reactions to her hospitalization. Come to the next page to take
a look at some strategies that might help you to deal with those feelings.
Fleitas, Ed.D., R.N.
Professor of Nursing, Lehman College, CUNY
Bronx, New York 10468
updated: November 14, 2004