nights I couldn't go to sleep because I heard my parents talking
I heard them say things like:
*'John, she is going to die. Today she couldn't get up theHad my parents known that I was taking everything in and making my own sense of the strange words they were using, I am certain that their vocabulary would have been much different. Based on my own experience, here's what I'd suggest:
* Be honest, above all. Discuss with your children (at their age levels) what their illness is all about, and what will happen to them in the hospital. When you don't do this, kids imagine the worst!Thanks for taking the time to visit... Barbara
"Here are some things that used to made me feel so guilty for being sick and needing to go the doctor. My parents would say, and I certainly will never forget:
* 'If I had a nickel for every time I took you to the doctor I'd be a rich person.'No wonder I feel awful about being sick so much. If your children are sick a lot, please don't take it out on them."
"One trick that makes pill taking easier (especially the nasty tasting ones) is to wrap the pill in a tiny bit of Fruit Roll-Up or Fruit by the Foot." Kim
"It's important that you know about your child's condition, no matter how scary it is. If children feels like they know more than you do (it happens and I speak from experience - mine), they will feel responsible for protecting you. You're the parents, and you need to take care of them, not the other way around."
please, accept your kids even if they cannot do what you dreamed
"Please don't try and come up with a diagnosis yourself before my doctor's appointment to 'keep me calm'. Actually, when you say that you know what my problem is it has the opposite effect; it makes me feel like you won't listen if I tell you about any new symptoms, or like you will work backwards and make the symptoms I share with you fit your diagnosis. I know you aren't a medical professsional and I don't expect you to have the answers when I talk to you about the strange things my body is doing. It is just cool that you are here to listen...that's enough!" Angela
Associate Professor of Nursing, Lehman COllege, CUNY
Bronx, New York 10468
updated: March 27, 2009