Posting and Replying on a Bulletin Board

This is an example of a ninth grader's response to reading an article related to a question she was researching. Below is an excerpt of several messages Anna and three of her classmates sent to each other in Nicenet.org. Anna had just read an article in a New Youth Connections paper, "Let Down" by Philip Hodge, when she wrote the first message, copied below.

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should you ever choose a boyfriend/girlfriend over friends?

First of all i didn't response to this question before because I though it was a very hard question to answer.But now I have an answer which I don't think anyone can change. In my opinion it is ok to choose a boyfriend over friends, because if your friends make you choose in the first place they are not your real friends. They don't have to like the guy you date but they shouldn't make you choose between them and your boyfriend. I mean why should you have this decison in the first palce? Why wouldn't your friends not want you dating this guy? Maybe it's just because they are jelous or for some other crazy reasons. In this article I read called "Let Down" by: Philip Hodge, Philip meat this girl and he fell in love with her. And when he had a problem and went to his friend for advice or some kind of support his friend didn't care. I think he was maybe jelous that Philip had a girlfriend and he didn't. So... my point is, if you do choose your friend over your boyfriend be sure that this person is your true friend and that they will always be there for you when you need them. It goes the same for if u choose a boyfriend over friends.In this book "sex, boys and you" they say you should always choose a guy that respects you, cares for you and that you should never make excuses for his behavior. so i guess that's it.what do u think now?

FROM: yahia   (05/09/02)
SUBJECT: I agree with u Anna

Well,u will have reason to leave ur friends and go to some body that u like, and I think the gf will give the person a lot respect to the guy more than the friends cuz she work in my way, and thats all I like to have........ In the rights

 

FROM: Tatiana C. (05/09/02)
SUBJECT: i agree with you!!!!!!!!

Hi Anna it's me TatianaC sinserily you are right because it's a dessision so difficult to answer but anyway. Well i want to tell you that what you said in your post is right because we have to see wich person is convinient for us because we know that in this world we have to meet to much to this person to make trush and you have to be sure that she/he will be with you in difficult moments. so i agree with you.!!!!!!!!!!!!

In this Question I'm still thinking about it becauseboth of them are good,but my first response for this Question was NO because the friends are one of the reasons that make the humans happey, and Im not going to leave them no matter what, later after I read THe LET DOWN for Phillip hodge,which is about a guy who were with a friend and they were so good together, they were talking about a lot things, like games and cartoons, and they were happey with each other. After that this guy went to his high school, and he met girl that he feel like her and love her, so he is in love with her, so she said to him I'm in love with you", and that make him feel like her,hnd he really love her, cuz he always thing about her, and he is in love with her and that make him feel too to be just with her cuaz he find that this is the best for him, so I'm thinking right now that there is reason for who love to leave his friends, and be just with his girlfriend, cuz she is going to give him care or love more that his friend, and thats true so, I cjange my mind, and my answer right now is YES for this Question.

FROM: Anna   (05/09/02)
SUBJECT: ur right

you are right. I think that 2 it is ok to choose a boyfriend over friends. Love is important in ur life but so are ur friends. but if ur friends are never there for you or dont care about you they are not ther ppl you shopuld be friends with.

 

FROM: nightmarex`....Javier ....nightmarex`   (05/16/02)
SUBJECT: course not

when i saw this question i get confuzed lol, and im still confuzed!:p. anyways, i think that friends r more importants than ur gf/bf because if u got a good friend u know that no1 is like him/her so u wanna keep his/her friendship thought...... and u can find any girl/guy out there. so friends r importants, maybe is the only good thing we got on our lifes :)

 

FROM: yahia   (06/11/02)
SUBJECT: I gree with u allah

Im so happy to see some body saying this, because I really like the right in this Question, and the friends are the most important in our lifes, and no body can't live with out friends, so don't let any body to aks that question any more because this person the one who aks u that question he really don't like u as i saud before, and the good boy/girl friend doan't ask any question like that.